>>8094760I sort of relate to your post, anon, at least it reminds me of problems I had with my mother. One of the hardest, but most beneficial (to my personal growth) things I learned was that my mother is a flawed and genuinely idiotic person. I always thought she could do and say no wrong and would always seek her out when I needed help or advice, but I realised over the years, especially as I got older and more independent, that she was usually clueless and winging it (badly) or lying to me about a lot of stuff and it always ended up causing me more hassle or grief. If there's any chance that you can look at your mother as just a flawed, bitter, miserable person with self-esteem issues, instead of your mother that you are 'supposed' to look up to and respect out of filial piety, then it might help you realise she is wrong about you in many ways and actually doesn't understand you at all. It can help you see that what she's saying is just projection. It takes a lot of time and effort, but I hope you have the kind of environment where you can work on it and start discarding those thoughts about yourself that shouldn't be there at all.
