>>8079940Thank you. The problem is that a lot of messed up behavior in men can manifest later in life. Same goes for women, but especially men nowadays. Men have a way harder time to get dates and find love, but are also more prone to aggression so the extreme pendulum shift of them being wonderful during courting and then after a while showing their true colors.
The sad part is that the meme of "I can fix him" doesn't work either, so my mother was stuck with this completely incorrigible manchild that shouts, slams doors, refuses to get either individual or couples therapy and treats her like garbage. She lost 30 years of her life until he divorced her for a 16 year old mistress turned girlfriend (which is legal in my country).
I wish I was lying, this is terrifying to me. And I can't stop reading about these either on subreddits like r/TwoXChromosomes and hearing from friends as well about how their boyfriends treat them horribly. I browse other womens only spaces too that I don't feel comfortable in sharing.
There's no answer to this, I'll just have to work through my ideas of purity and maybe come to terms with that if I get dumped that doesn't mean my body is defiled. I'm glad you've been in love and came to terms with being dumped, I hope I'll one day have that kind of emotional maturity.
