>>6954745I used to have an inflated sense of self-worth like you, I'm not even having a dig, I'm just imparting some wisdom and speaking from experience. I know what it's like to have low self-esteem and to have a very high opinion of the kind of person you want to and feel like you should be. This brooding, misunderstood, don't make me angry character you've built for yourself, just stop it right now, you've watched far too many movies where the loner gets the girl. None of that works unless you're a very attractive guy who can pull off the standing in the wind, staring into the distance kind of look, which you probably can't.
You probably aren't a tough guy, but you want to be, who amongst us doesn't want to be that tough but gentle, honourable, respected man we see in the cinema? When you stop creating unrealistic expectations like this, you can start to live a better and happier life. You can develop yourself into a tough guy if you really want to, and you can develop unique characteristics about yourself that attract people to you, but only once you've let go of these juvenile dreams. I'm not saying I went from zero to hero, but I recognise now that I am not the person I want to be, and I try every day to be that better person, and you can too. You can get the girl in time, but YOU can get her, not the stereotype you're striving to be.
inb4 projecting, I am projecting, and I just figured I'd weigh in with a slightly too heavy post in a wallpaper thread. Not the right place or time, but your post immediately reminded me of myself a couple of years ago. And hopefully this was more helpful than being called a fat unlovable mess.
