>>7715926Was living with my best friend and his girlfriend over the summer. Pretty soon after we moved in together, his girlfriend and I both discovered he was talking MASSIVE shit about us behind both of our backs; when we moved in we actively disliked each other because of the things he said about us, months later we started to actually fall in love and realize he was the shitty one. Then, he raped her, started abusing her, I had to call the cops, he forced himself into her new housing situation with her female friends, now she's been trying to contact me for the past 2 months and I'm just lost as to what to do.
It's been insanely tough to open myself up to people anymore. After I found out how much he had badmouthed me to all of our mutual friends and then abused someone because of me, it's really hard to open up to or trust anyone anymore. Two weeks ago I finally started speaking to people again, and I have to say anon, it's been great.
Just remember though, BOUNDARIES. Keep FIRM and CONSCIOUS boundaries with any new people you meet. Only lift those boundaries when they have proven to you beyond a reasonable doubt that they are trustworthy. If someone starts shit talking their friends around you, don't trust them and cut them out of your life because they are 100% doing the same behind your back. If someone disregards your interests and priorities for their own benefit without seeing anything wrong with it, cut them out of your life. If someone apologizes to you for their behavior, then continues to do the same things they apologized for, cut them out of your life.
There are very few people you will meet in this life that are worth keeping close to you, identify those people and NEVER let them go.
