>>78572This.
OP, what you need to find is emotional stability and maturity.
I don't really have the answers for that, but you can find your way if you search for long enough.
The good thing about 4chan is that nothing is really saved, so you don't see how much of an dummy you really were when you get older.
When you're older, and if you search for this thread, you'll look back and know exactly what I mean.