>>1544975>>1544792i think men aren't nice to you because you aren't nice to them. this is because of your bad experience with them and is understandable. There are counless men willing to give you what you want (being cute and sweet) but you would never want them because they don't meet your impossible standards
anyways here's the cope you asked for:
https://www.nature.com/articles/hdy198061the research article PDF at the bottom of the other article makes it pretty clear that generally females recieve the most resources, attention, and most favorable outcomes from mating on average, with the exception that males with the most desirable traits are likely to switch pairs at some point or be non-monogamous. the same phenomenon observed in side blotched lizards
if you are looking to get an ideal situation out of this (i.e. a male that is fully enthralled) then you need to find your value-equivalent. women who date up exchange fidelity for better genes
