There is no randomness or happenstance. Other people do not have agency. As a result anything bad that happens to you, any task you fail at is 100% your fault. You simply were not good enough to accomplish the task. Mostly you didn't try hard enough, which also means if you try again you should change nothing and simply try harder. That applies especially to relationships. People you are attracted to are like video games. If you push the right buttons they *will* fall in love with you and *will* have sex with you. If they don't you simply fucked up because you're an incompetent loser.
