>>142703this is creeping into /adv/ territory, and I haven't seen any good guides lately. but here's a bump and some info, I hope it helps.
probably the first thing you should do is shitcan the assumption that there's a "right" way to get a gf. girls are people, they're different than guys but they're all individuals too. some rules of thumb for dealing with people should be followed doubly so with girls.
make sure your hygiene is good, hair is neat, and you're dressing neatly and in clean clothes, not just marinating in febreze. febreze smells fucking gross anyway. the more clean-cut you look, the more mature you seem. and maturity is attractive to pretty much everybody except ageplay fetishists.
what's not attractive is desperation. you know how some girls (and guys) have orbiters? orbiters, not surface colonies. they are in orbit, at a distance. clingy people are uncomfortable to be around, so much so that even when a person is selfishly fishing for attention, they still want some breathing room. let that sink in. this was one of the hardest things for me to learn. it takes self-discipline. and it does tie into what
>>142716 said about confidence. the whole "act like you don't care about them" rule kinda works, but not because girls want a guy who doesn't care. they want you to care, but most would rather you be too distant than too clingy. the ones that prefer clinginess are generally batshit anyway.
you should be genuine in most things, but fake aloofness if you have to. I did it by reminding myself not to expect too much out of an interaction. that served the dual purpose of keeping spaghetti in pockets and keeping my hopes from being dashed all the time. bitterness is also unattractive as well as extremely obvious.
do stuff you like to do, work on being the person you want to be. whenever possible, do it in a way (join clubs, go to meets etc.) that puts you around other people. you will find someone eventually. good luck OP!
