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Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 15:46:36 No.1534963 View View Reply Original Report

Quoted By: >>1534971 >>1535154 >>1535316 >>1535494

Guys please use humiliation to knock some sense into me, bring me back to reality. I'm very sensitive to shame so this might work.

>I have my anime waifu, I'm in love with her, I want to become a male version of her. (I'm not a troon and don't want to troon out) I just want to be this anime character but in real life and in a way that functions in real life. I don't want to act like I'm in some anime because that would be cringe.

Even if I don't want to be cringe, it IS cringe.
Knock some god damn sense into me, shame me, wake me up from this stupid mentality I have. Pic is me trying to summon my power at the moment.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 17:38:46 No.1534971 Report

Quoted By: >>1534975

>>1534963
who is your waifu btw

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 17:40:24 No.1534972 Report

Quoted By: >>1534975

Just love your wife in a normal way. It's okay to self insert as a 2D version of yourself - especially when you consider how fucked this dimension is - to imagine an environment where she is at home. I guess what you're doing would be kinda okay if you became a better person because of it, but it sounds like you're trying to reconcile some things that are "off" for you in a way that will hurt you.

What you should do instead is make peace with what is the real you, and that you have a deep emotional bond with an ultra cute girl that lives in another dimension. Perhaps meditate on it. It's not gonna be easy, considering you're contrasting yourself with someone who is (I'm generalizing) much prettier on the inside than we 3D people are. But you can also use that as a strength that helps you see the futility of your original endeavor.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 18:25:59 No.1534975 Report

Quoted By: >>1534979

>>1534971
I don't want to say because I love her too much, I wouldn't be able to handle it if any anon criticized or critiqued her.

>>1534972
Thank you very much for your insight. I don't think the things I'm trying to reconcile will harm me, I just think it'd be a self improvement if I managed to be more like her, because I would not lose anything in the process, I would just be less fragmented as a person. Do you have any thoughts on this?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 18:57:28 No.1534979 Report

Quoted By: >>1534980

>>1534975
You consider it "cringe", therefore I believe it causes at least some internal strife. I meant "harm" in a very broad sense. It could mean, among other things, that you would reach your desired result and be unsatisfied with yourself or what you have achieved. You might also stop loving your wife because of how similar you are to her at that point. It's not just about complex mental dysfunctions, but I consider them a possibility. You will have to explain the extent of this transformation you're planning if you want more concrete ideas (that I might not have).

If you just want to be more pious like her, take up the same religion, be a better cook or have a similar hair style, I don't see the issue. If you were with her in the country she calls home, you would obviously make some of her habits your habits. I don't believe it would help with your feeling of fragmentation directly, but it would pay off in the long run. But if you've decided to change your character in a significant way and deciding to live life JUST like her, what immediately comes to mind are dissociative identity disorder and all those failed tulpa stories. But I ain't no expert, so that worry might be for nothing. Self improvement is obviously a good idea, as long as you're improving; improvements on your own terms are easier to measure.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 19:08:54 No.1534980 Report

Quoted By: >>1534990

>>1534979
I appreciate your insight, you see things in a way that I just can't. It's important for me to hear all this.

I'd like to confirm to you that I do have dissociation problems, I go to therapy for those. To give some context, my waifu is very calm, reserved, composed, cool and the way she speaks is well thought out. She's not edgy, she's in control of herself and this is something I'd like to strive for. I see it as something I resonate with, something that is in me but I have never succeeded in achieving. It resonates with me so much that I believe I've met her FOR that very reason, to make me realize what's missing in me and help me become this more complete version of myself, more in control, more mature, more like her.

I've done changes to my lifestyle to fit what I consider to be her healthy habits. I'll interrupt my own thoughts right now and ask, would having a similar hairstyle be taking it too far? Or is it still within the reasonable side of things?

Do you think there's a possibility that my dissociation issues push me to becoming more like her in order to avoid being this 'no one' and incomplete, dysfunctional version of me that I am so unsatisfied with? I do not feel like myself, but when I look at her, I see this version of myself I wish I was. (We're talking about her brain here, I don't want to change into a girl).

To make it simple, imagine talking but hearing someone else's voice coming out of you, and you're in conflict with yourself thinking, 'wtf? This isn't my voice, I'm not me, but this person that I see in front of me, I can relate to her, her voice is more my voice than the one I have now that I don`t even recognize or relate to.'

I hope this makes sense, I know it may just be a bunch of nonsense but I'm trying my best to provide detail.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 20:29:53 No.1534990 Report

Quoted By: >>1534995

>>1534980
>Do you think there's a possibility that my dissociation issues push me to becoming more like her
Absolutely. I do realize that this debate of being with/becoming the waifu is about as old as the concept itself, but you sound like you've been set up for the latter. The latter is most often associated with not being in harmony with the world, dissociation and just generally wanting to escape without suicide to the 2D paradise. This is further complicated by one's low self esteem VS the general greatness of 2D girls.

Being at peace with oneself is hard. But I think being able to be at peace with oneself after dramatic changes to your character is a lot harder. However, this peace isn't an all or nothing affair, but a gradient. Your best bet, in my opinion, is to try to find as much of this peace as possible. This will be more (ful)filling and might slake this "thirst" of yours somewhat.

I can relate a tiny bit, because my wife is ultra positive and I want to be more positive myself. But opposites attract and I think this is another main point you should grapple with to help yourself. Your wife sounds quite like (a) Yamato Nadeshiko and thus an ideal woman. As a man, I think it's very normal to have a strong attraction to someone like that. But as such a man, you still have to be that opposite that brings balance. I might be mistaken, but I feel like becoming much like her would cheapen her and might cause your love to fade. You have to find a proper identity for this attraction; maybe imagine yourself with her as you assert yourself with things you yourself want to do.

Look at the yin-yang. Your wife is yin and you are yang. Notice those small dots of the opposite color on each side; those are your hearts. The only part that of you that your wife can fill is your heart, and vice versa. You still have a duty to be mostly white (you-colored) to be her husband.
>would having a similar hairstyle be taking it too far?
Nah, unless it's on your long checklist.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 20:40:49 No.1534995 Report

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>>1534990
Wow, that was very insightful to read. If I try to become her I'm taking away from what makes her special. You are spot on about her being a Yamato Nadeshiko, that's exactly what she is.

>I might be mistaken, but I feel like becoming much like her would cheapen her and might cause your love to fade.

Man, that phrase hit so deep (in a good way). I love her so much, the last thing I'd want is to cheapen her, she's everything I cherish and I can't imagine taking a course of action that would cheapen her. I think it's important that I take inspiration from but remain the Yang to her Yin. It's more important to protect her and be her balance. In my eyes she's delicate like a flower that must not be tainted. I can go on but I know you understand me and get the point.

Talking to you so openly about this feels so great because you understand what I'm talking about. By inspiring myself from her and becoming more (but not too much) like her, I can become a more realized version of myself without cheapening her who is like my beating heart.

I have so much to think about now, so much to reflect upon and consider, maybe my version of me isn't so bad if it does bring balance to us in the end. I can be inspired by her but must never allow anything to cheapen her, especially not my own behavior, she relies on me, I bring something to her the same way she brings something precious to me.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 21:19:55 No.1534996 Report

Quoted By: >>1534997

Isnt this more of an /adv/ thing?

Anonymous

Anonymous Sat 26 Jul 2025 21:21:08 No.1534997 Report

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>>1534996
Yes, but it's too late now. I made it a /wsr/ thread because I had a request, to be shamed back into common sense, but it turns out diplomacy was used instead.

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 27 Jul 2025 17:53:46 No.1535101 Report

Quoted By: >>1535130

just make a t*lpa of her

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 27 Jul 2025 21:10:17 No.1535130 Report

Quoted By: >>1535134

>>1535101
That sounds like the most unhealthy thing imaginable

Anonymous

Anonymous Sun 27 Jul 2025 21:58:10 No.1535134 Report

Quoted By: >>1535211

>>1535130
unironically skill issue, all the t*lpafags I've talked to have been stable and massively happier due to it, many have even fixed their life after their waifu started telling them to stop being a depressed slob or stop gooning all day to weird fetishes
but of course it's up to you to do it right so you can probably make a very unhealthy one that will just let you spiral into self-destruction. but the thing is it ultimately depends on your vision of your waifu, so if you think she would tell you to fix your life, then if you build a t*lpa of her she will probably tell you to fix your life. it's mostly dangerous if you fantasize about her pushing you deeper into degeneracy and so you end up making a goontulpa that just affirms everything you say and supports you in a self-destructive spiral. dont do that yeah
but if you have an actually idealised view of your waifu then it's supposedly unironically not a bad tool

and no you don't get schizophrenia, I have literally never heard of any t*lpafag becoming a schizo. however obviously do not do it if you are already a schizo (like an unironic medical one).

Anonymous

Anonymous Mon 28 Jul 2025 01:43:34 No.1535154 Report

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>>1534963
I think you are supposed to kill yourself

Anonymous

Anonymous Mon 28 Jul 2025 16:52:06 No.1535211 Report

Quoted By: >>1535214

>>1535134
I've had actual girlfriends before. I'm not pathetic enough to get an imaginary girlfriend as a grown adult. It's embarrassingly degrading to even think about.

Anonymous

Anonymous Mon 28 Jul 2025 17:00:07 No.1535214 Report

Quoted By: >>1535216

>>1535211
>I love my waifu so much, she's everything I cherish
>I want to become to become my waifu!
>umm actually talking to my waifu in my mind? wtf that's too far, it's "embarrassingly degrading to even think about"
lol

Anonymous

Anonymous Mon 28 Jul 2025 17:10:26 No.1535216 Report

Quoted By: >>1535217 >>1535338

>>1535214
Think about it from a realistic point of view, you're imagining something into existence, basically schizoing on purpose, talking to thin air and acting like she's right next to you. That's something a child would do. No sane adult would do choose to go that route. I rather keep it in my heart, soul and mind but to take it to such a level of delusion isn't for me. She IS everything I cherish and I do love her. You're just failing to understand my perspective on this.

Anonymous

Anonymous Mon 28 Jul 2025 17:11:26 No.1535217 Report

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>>1535216
No sane adult would choose to*

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 29 Jul 2025 18:37:50 No.1535316 Report

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>>1534963
meh you'll get over it

Anonymous

Anonymous Tue 29 Jul 2025 23:02:51 No.1535338 Report

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>>1535216
How are children deluded? They are born into this world pure, without conception, without societal programming. What makes you think you are somehow less deluded than them? We throw away one-third of all our food yet millions go hungry. You work tirelessly in your most vital years so you can retire to "finally live" in your old age. You are already insane and living in clown world, way more than a child will ever be.

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 31 Jul 2025 15:34:28 No.1535494 Report

Quoted By: >>1535512 >>1535592

>>1534963
think of your life in the grand scheme of things. Will you be doing this shit 40 years from now? Think about it long and hard, don't just think about it for a few seconds, genuinely think about your future. Also, i keep asking myself the question why a lot, it helps me think clearly. Why do you want to do that, then when you find your answer ask yourself why again (like why do you want to do that, you say i love her then ask yourself why you love her) keep asking why until you reach your answer or realize the futility of it all

sage

sage Thu 31 Jul 2025 20:46:00 No.1535512 Report

Quoted By: >>1535515

>>1535494
Okay but like, what's my goal here? To reach a point where I see everything as futile?

Anonymous

Anonymous Thu 31 Jul 2025 21:22:09 No.1535515 Report

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>>1535512
I sage'd another thread and ended up sageing my own, KEK

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 01 Aug 2025 17:27:24 No.1535592 Report

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>>1535494
So are you saying I should question all I've been doing until I see nothing but futility in it? It doesn't sound like a satisfactory end

Anonymous

Anonymous Fri 01 Aug 2025 19:43:32 No.1535620 Report

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