Women don't hate ugly men, women hate entitled ugly men. We are simply not attracted to ugly men let alone average men but we and society as a whole disavow sexual entitlement that's espoused by certain younger ugly men known as incels which has proven to be dangerous over and over again.
The truth is, most of the self victimization by incels makes zero sense because most women will never bully you, oppress you or ostracize you for existing and being ugly but almost all women will never want anything to do with you, romantically. Thinking that that's akin to bullying or evil in and of itself shows how evil and entitled ugly incels are.