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Are we doing relationship advice now?
Remember that asking someone out really is a question. You're asking because you're curious about the answer. The answer could be yes or no, and either one is just as valid as the other.
I like to look at it as being interested. That doesn't mean I'm committed and attached to someone before dating them. It means I'm interested in them as a person, and I'm interested to know if they're curious about me in the same way. I'm interested in seeing how we would do together as a couple, and I'm interested in learning about them as a person and as a partner.
With that mindset, I try not to set myself up for failure. 'No' would satisfy my curiosity as much as 'Yes'. It wouldn't be what I wanted, but it would still be the one and only situation that exists. If they're not interested at that point in time, the feeling isn't mutual, and it wouldn't work out anyway. No need to dwell. They could say say they're not interested in that way, then you go "oh! okay, I had just been wondering." and go back to being whatever kind of friends you are.
It's just a question, and it's just an answer.
