>>2866644(cont.)
As for what evageeks said or says, it pretty clear that site is full of Asuka fans that are more interested in fulfilling their personal fantasies rather than paying attention to the actual storyline.
I recall an interview in which Anno stated that after episode 6 of NGE, he had no idea of what to do with her character. He felt that with her smile Rei was done with her development. After episode 6 Rei didn't show up much for while, because Anno felt he had written himself to a dead end. In 2.22, Rei received a lot of screen time which allowed her character to be shown in a way not present in the original.
Rei doesn't bother to get close to others because she sees herself as a replaceable object. That's probably why Anno dislikes her fanbase as many of them see her as a perfect wife rather than a lonely person.