>>3351396I have also read it here (
https://www.gwern.net/docs/eva/2010-crc) and according to what it says in NGE Rei would be prepare a dinner for Shinji for his birthday in the episode 4.
It is likely that if that episode would have had that dinner the behavior of Rei would have been "out of place" or maybe I'm wrong but it seems to me that the 4 episode is too early for occur that event.