>>3295736>Think of the Hedgehog's dilema. >Rei can't hurt you, like a doll. The comfort she offers is hollow and she wouldn't even raise a hand in self defense.>Asuka can hurt you, like the hedgehog, but she is able to offer warmth if you're not afraid of the possible pain associated with human interaction.>At least that's how I see it.My intentions were the inverse actually. Asuka is Shinji/Anno's mother archetype. He wants to be dominated and forced into action. Since Anno doesn't fully understand the concepts he's dealing with and hasn't actually undergone analysis, he's unaware of this and his conscious diverts this onto Rei.
Asuka is weak and narcissistic, she drags Shinji down. Rei is selfless and strives to be the best she can be, she lifts Shinji up. Anno/Shinji chooses Asuka due to his masochistic tendencies. That's why Anno is unfair to Rei.
Of course this is all armchair psychology, so feel free to disregard all of it.