>>1830199I used to think this attitude was the biggest fucking cope, when I was mid-20s and casually dating a lot of women. And now I'm 31 and looking for a girl to share my life with and have kids with, and it's absolutely brutal.
For context, I am a tall fit white dude, decent looking, own my own business and make ~$250k, have lots of hobbies, make music, read a lot. I am a really positive person, outgoing, charismatic (my job depends on me being super confident and intuitive and I am really good at reading people/emotions). I am not trying to sound entitled, just making a point that I think I've got some positive qualities, all considered.
Many women I meet are just uninteresting, they don't have hobbies or passions, I don't see their eyes light up about anything. I wouldn't want to spend a 3-hour flight with them let alone have kids with them. Many are crass, mean-spirited, complain a lot, proudly don't cook etc.
Some women are very cool, hobbies, feminine etc., but these girls never seem to be interested in me and break it off after a few dates. I don't know what (if anything) I am doing wrong. They're 30+ and interested in marriage/kids, so I don't know what they are waiting for.
The worst part of it all is that, in my 20's, I dated (and broke up with) a number of sweet, sensitive and family-oriented women who absolutely were down to get married... I fell for the awful, bullshit meme that a "player lifestyle" is the best thing. I think part of what I'm going through now is, in some way, penance for this. They're all married now to other guys and having kids, too.
Anyway, I don't think feminism "ruined" women so much as the entrance of women into the workplace stripped them of the incentives, time and resources to get married and have kids in the first place. Just like I got tricked into being a rootless urban "player," I see a lot of women who postpone marriage/kids so they can work a soul-crushing corporate job. And that's pretty sad.
