>>30851046Im really sorry about the psychological damage.
I'd say to try to let it go, but you've probably heard it a thousand times.
Here's my two cents though;
The guy was a human being, just like you. He had his own feelings, and if it went on for a long time, he was probably having his own psychological problems. I'm not defending him, he's dead. But I am saying that this man may have been really nice, and just fell into a mistake that went on too long. Or he was generally an asshole. Either way, he is dead. So dwelling on him, or villainizing him, is only going to hurt you more.
I don't believe his intent was malicious, you don't seem to have been scammed out of money or anything. Quite possibly it started sexual to him, and he couldn't end it, or he never intended to start anything at all, and never had the heart to tell you the truth. This is not actually uncommon at all. Quite possibly, you was some of the only company he had, and he actually just liked having you around in his final days.
My point is, you simply don't know the full story and never will, and while he undoubtedly did a shitty thing, you are able to live a happy life now. He didn't scam you, physically hurt you, and he never intended to emotionally hurt you. Ignorance really can be bliss, and while you found out the truth, I think the best thing you can do is accept that shit happened, but your life is unaltered by him, you have lots to live for and enjoy.
I was similarly manipulated by someone over the internet, and at the same time I also regretfully lied and hid very important truths from people for years. When truths come out, its best to just accept, forgive where applicable, and move on.
