>>44782107I know this is incredibly cliche, but as someone who went through the same as your ex, "it's not you, it's me". My first bf was a really amazing person and we had a lot in common, always had a good time together and he never did anything wrong, but I.. just didn't love him. I still remember the day I realized, I was hugging him and thought that I really didn't feel anything at all. "Why am I hugging him, why am I doing this? Is this correct? Or is this emptiness supposed to be love?" I stayed with him for a long time because I thought that eventually I'd feel something, plus all the "omg first bf" excitement, but the spark just wasn't there. I don't know how to explain it and trust me, it did make me feel like shit. I was actually angry at my brain for not being able to love this man, but I just couldn't no matter what I did, I always felt meh. I didn't let it show during the first years, I actually acted like a lovey dovey gf that made him cards, crafts and stuff, but I didn't do it out of love. With time it became harder to keep this up. Eventually I realized I couldn't keep on leading him on because he deserved someone that truly did love him and what I was doing was completely unfair, so I had to be brave and break it off. I never told him I never loved him, because in a way I did like him as a person, if that makes sense, and I'd lie if I said I never had fun or enjoyed our time together. For the record, I was also his first gf.
What I'm trying to tell you is that sometimes this shit happens, and yes it sucks but it's not your fault. I don't know what she told you besides that or how your breakup played out, but know that in cases like this it's not that there's something wrong with you. You both just didn't have that spark, that chemistry, and while sad there's not really much you can do. Best advice I can give you is to not feel down and keep your head up, one day you'll meet someone who you truly click with, who'll also genuinely click with you.
