>>46317167>I can't shake the feeling that she's plotting something & it drives me fucking insane.Our intuition is often backed by something. I always trust that inner feeling, even if I don't have any tangible evidence.
>'cause I have no idea what to do or if I'm overthinking shitWell, you've at least started by identifying the two problems: you don't know how to resolve this situation and you are ruminating on this issue without reaching a meaningful resolution.
That's a good start, you're halfway out of the woods.
So, it's clear at this stage that the mutual friend is more friendly towards your spouse than towards yourself.
Are you prepared to dissolve that friendship in order to keep your spouse? Because that's a fairly likely outcome of any conflict that arises from this.
In relationships, it's important to set boundaries. My wife and I have become mutually friendly with a majority of each other's friends. But we rarely overstep and engage in social interactions with each other's friends, rare exceptions do arise, but that's the general rule we follow.
If this mutual friend was your friend and now is closer to your partner, that's overstepping a boundary and is worth discussing the issue with your partner just from the perspective of "hey, that's my friend, how would you feel if I spent that amount of time with your friend?"
It's going to be difficult to navigate this, but the longer you leave it, the harder it will be as the pressure builds within you.
