>>25265951>A relationship is not about carrying two burdens, but sharing those burdens with each other and working together to better yourselves and remove said burdens.Factually incorrect. This here is a big fucking problem. A relationship is NOT about sharing burdens, you have a very VERY abusive mindset here. A partner is not for sharing your burdens with. They might because they want to but not all burdens are to be shared. They can lend a ear and sometimes they can't, won't and shouldn't. What you are describing is fundamentally a form of mental abuse. A belief that a partner is there to share and help carry all burdens. But what you are actually doing here is chaining your partner to you which is what typically happens in these situations. You lick each other wounds and mentally bind the other person by forcing your problems on each other and forcing them to stay or else you will be in pain etc. A relationship is absolutely about carrying two burdens as its a bond of mutual respect not a bond of sharing each others suffering. A relationship is nothing more than a close friendship. You don't expect your fucking friends to share in all your burdens, no matter how close you are. You desire not actual love but merely the illusion of love that's typically sold in media.
Almost missed it but a relationship doesn't involve bettering each other either. That's a really really "toxic" mindset here. Nowhere in a relationship does it ever involve changing or improving yourself. If someone is expecting you to change yourself for a relationship, that isn't love, its abuse. You improve yourself because YOU want to see a better YOU not so your partner has a better you. The other side of this is also that a relationship that's born in unhealthy conditions isn't going to generate this sort of thought patterns. You are going to be happy that someone accepts you for who you are and not strive to improve yourself. If you do, there is a much more likely chance it'll be a halfarsed effort and not a true one because you have already been accepted for how you already are. You will unlikely no longer see the path of improving yourself for the sake of yourself.
>>25276197Garbage off-topic. Sum up to everyone's dumb relationships discussions they keep trying to have and purue in gc are really fucking bad.