>>93753186Everyone starts somewhere, and different types of sex come easier to others. I think it might help you to think about how you can apply aspects of your strengths to a different tone and situation, and then it might translate to you a little more.
Taking rape for instance, the core of which lies in a power dynamic. The rapist is exercising their power over the situation and individual to get what the release they want, and this ranges from just getting off themselves in conjuncture with the powertrip involved, or winning a mental battle of sorts over their victim. Tender and consensual intimacy can also have a clear power dynamic to them, but without the feeling of danger. One side always taking the lead, doing the work, etc. I think you can translate that into something more tender in your own works. Let a character want it rough from their partner, have them voice it, and let the top in the situation be all too eager to deliver. Partners communicating their wants is its own level of tenderness.
You can also try to think about it from another angle you are more familiar with in terms of abuse. An action such as trailing a hand down someone's inner thigh can be used in such context to show possessiveness as well as breaching a boundary that should not have been crossed, it can also showing love and intimacy when put in the middle of a flirtatious conversation. Is some of this powering on any lights?
