>>23719159she is in a prison of her own making. She wants to be taken but trauma of having been controlled and asserted in the past,has made her overlycautious and afraid of letting people take control of her.
therefore she scrutinizes most males so only the most herbivore of them can become her close friends.
but in doing so, she surrounds herself with the most benign males imaginable.
She also cant take action, because it would be doing the same evils other has scarred her with.
So she is stuck, being an endless flirt to unreactive males or females, only able to make the closest of friendships, and recieve physical affection from her cats.
It is an incredibly complex problem to fix her, as what she desires is contradiction and cannot exist. A herbivore male that is assertive when she wants it, but the rest of the time harmless.
At her core she understands this, and is why she has given up on love, commiting herself ironically, but in reality unironically, to her cats.