>>11255574Because it means that you're special to that person.
I've been with plenty of women who would either tell me about their ex outright or were thinking about them and wouldn't tell me until I prodded them(at which point they told me they were thinking about an ex)
There's no better way to say
>you aren't specialwithout saying it than having another man on your mind romantically and sexually in a relationship
Unfortunately, when you are in something as intimate as sexual experience or relationship, especially the formative ones, that shit defines you. That's what formative means, after all.
This is why the "don't become dependent, it's not healthy" cope exists. Because it's actually unhealthy for you to become dependent on somebody who isn't dependent on you. But dependence and love are two sides of the same coin. I want a passion that makes me crazy, not a business partner. I WANT to feel safe becoming dependent.
But if you have other men in mind, you can never be trusted to become dependent on, because you'd never become dependent on somebody else in turn. You can only ever be a casual business partner I have sex with, discuss my emotions with, and build a life together with. But there's never going to be a bond there that makes me ignore literally the rest of the world on instinct alone just to make you happy, nothing there that would make me paranoid, nothing that makes me do stupid shit for stupid reasons- because you wouldn't. Because you're experienced. Because there are other fish in the sea.
I'm going to get called an incel for this(if I don't get mucho texto'd) but it's the opposite. I'm done with relationships because all of it is so clinical. I grew up watching movies where love literally saved the world and I felt those crushes and I had those honeymoon period feelings and I've done the long-term relationship shtick and I know what love is and what it isn't. And most relationship aren't love. It's a little bit of FOMO, a little bit of Stockholm Syndrome, a little bit of Sunk Cost fallacy, and a whole lot of cope. But never an ounce of real love. I know love. The people in those relationships were and are way, way too reasonable for love. Love isn't reasonable.