>>11652880think about it like this, my dude
if you had control over what she's saying/doing, it's not really different from lucid dreaming or particularly vivid imagination
to have a proper autonomous experience, you have to dissociate her, so it starts behaving closer to a normal dream
now think about all the weird/nightmarish shit you dreamed of in your life, where you didn't have any real control over it - the dreams of being chided, embarrassed, chased, falling
you basically let your anime waifu be steered by that subsection of your brain