>>27955077Very much with you there - I'm into consent and mutual enjoyment when it comes to BDSM. If you're going to inflict serious pain, it should be when she asks for it or does something warranting a major punishment. And aftercare is never a bad idea, same with rewards for endurance.
Ultimately, it's about the mutually accepted power dynamic and the trust it builds between you and your partner, not violence. Of course people can do whatever they want when it comes to fiction and fantasies, but I only want to hurt people that are asking for it.
