>>36715364Honestly, what I'd recommend is just putting some distance from yourself and the emotion. When you experience the negative emotions of envy, or even other ones, acknowledge that, "oh there it is again. the envy is back". And examine how it makes you feel emotionally and physically in the body. This kind of practice allows you to not get sucked into the feeling of the emotion in the moment. Also, when we're emotional, it becomes difficult to have rational thought, and our reaction to things get amplified, so putting yourself in a state of observation helps mellow the emotions as we try to switch from an emotional mind to a rational one. The brain itself changes gears when we can do this. Doing this longer over time should help lessen the intensity of the emotions as you learn to keep a distance. Though long term, it's best to figure out where that emotion comes from because all of our emotional reactions to things are learned experiences over the course of our life.
When you find the source, you can try to emotionally process that emotion. When we "save" memories, an emotional impression is saved along with it, that has the maturity of the age that it happened. This is why childhood trauma is so powerful since a child's mind is unable to process things properly leaving a ball of undigested emotion lying dormant in the mind ready to pop up during the proper circumstances.
After you get familiar with how you feel emotionally and physically during these times of envy or other ones to, try to think back as for how long you've felt this way. Try to find a point in time you felt these similar sensations, and as early as you can. Though sometimes it's not one big event, but multiple small events building over time.
So processing the root of the emotion is more of trying to comfort your past self. What were the words you felt like you needed to hear? This is basically what happens in therapy, and it's much easier when there's a professional to guide you through the whole process rather than solo, but we do what we can with what we got I guess. Good luck out there Sapling.
