>>7590782being molested and/or shy and/or bullied and/or rejected will fuck up your views of sex. just look at incels.
it's not uncommon for women to believe, with good reason, that they can't love any men. i mean if you get an anxiety attack from looking at penises or masculine features you're kinda in it rough, yeah?
but the problem with that is it's a dualistic on/off view of life, which is too silly. you can be scared of something and still be aroused by it. i don't think there is always a way to 'fix' people, even if there technically is a sexual desire buried under everything, but i think incredibly sensitive and well matched men are often capable of doing such a task.
i take care of somebody with ptsd, anxiety, history of being abused, mental issues, depression, etc, and it's far from easy. sometimes i have to let them do things i know will upset them later, because otherwise they'll feel they have no control. there are no easy answers. the mind is incredibly odd. he does not understand what he really wants and honestly neither do i understand what would really make him happy.
even if i did i wouldn't exactly know the way to it and it might require things to happen outside of my control, either through luck or something else.
