>>6810856I had a buddy who's sister went through another sort of degenerative thing. She was so wracked with anguish, so guilty and ashamed - ashamed that she would be a burden. But it wasn't her fault and it's not yours. Our memory of her isn't her shitting and drooling in hospice. If I could talk to the dead, I would let her know. It would bring her so much peace in death to know that what we really remember and dwell on are her glories.
That was the most agonizing part of it for her, and everyone around her, so I just wanted to say that. Your friends and family will remember your triumphs.