>>6539809ouch anon, really can't relate too much to your situation (not in relationship, no kids, etc), but how old are the kids? is it always like this, or are there moments you enjoy with her too, even if few and far between? I'd usually suggest communication, but those kind of thoughts can sometimes increase tension when they're out in the open, and with the kids/your situation that might not be the best immediate thing to do. Have you tried talking to her about specific things that set you off?