>>7993110>my sister has been taking advantage of my mother for years. she refuses to get a job even though she has a prestigious degree. both are pissed at me because I called my sister out on her bullshit.This, sadly, sounds all too familiar to be honest.
Unfortunately if it's a thing that been ongoing for quite some time there's almost no way to discuss the situation with either of them without it blowing up out of all proportion with either or both of them coming back at you in some degree of anger.
As sad as it is, all you can really do is just leave the situation in their hands, if your mother is aware of your sisters little games, or she isn't but she'll actively defend your sister if you try to talk to your mother about what your sister has been doing, then it's simply not worth your time and energy getting involved in their situation, that's all just something your mother will have to resolve for herself and in her own time.
As with the other Anon above though, I don't suggest cutting off all ties with your parents/sibling(s), but do consider just getting on with your own life, rather than letting work and family worries drag you down to where it negatively affects, and so potentially ruins, everything around you; so rather than focusing on your family's shenanigans, focus on your own wife and your relationship with her, if your marriage is something you both actively want to maintain through your love of each other then you both absolutely need to sit down and openly talk and work together to make that the best relationship it can be.
Hard to do as it might seem, don't just fall into the trap of sitting in the corner quietly moping and worrying about all the negative shit you perceive in your life, instead get out there and look for, and grab onto, all the (potential) positives that do exist that you can find.
