>>6561049Complain-y /AvPD/ poster here; my other post got too ranty to adequately respond to this, but I'd like to respond as I've been in the "depressed gf that's shutting down and pushing people away" situation, and my partner at the time had to deal with it. This was many years ago, and I've grown since then, but back then I was so adamant about rejecting help from someone who was trying to, and she eventually couldn't take it and just left.
I was a pretty awful partner, I just shut down and was so upset all the time that I had a physically difficult time speaking. Eventually it turned out she wasn't the best of people, period, but I think what I needed back then was some serious introspection with just myself for a long stretch of time, and that's what I got.
Sometimes people who have crippling mental issues just need some space, but every single person is different. But anon, have you tried asking her what she needs? Unfortunately, trying to cheer someone up with sever depression is probably going to be a lesson in futility. Has she considered seeing a medical professional? Sometimes talking to a professional can help; and if that seems a bit too detached, try looking for some support groups in your area!!! Support groups can be a better environment for some people since they're talking to people who actually share the same issues, and aren't just a doctor who's well-versed in the issue. Sometimes support groups can offer more empathy, which can help someone feel a little less alone.
Unfortunately, one of the byproducts of depression can be low motivation, so try offering to go with her to a therapy session or a support group meeting. The worst thing about depression is receding into yourself and suffering in silence by yourself rarely helps with any issue.
GL, anon! I'm rooting for both you and your girlfriend. :>
