>>7194432It's too late for this advice if you're not already following it, but you should only be intimate/close to people you can confess things to and find support in. This is not only true of your wife but also of friends, your future children, coworkers, etc.
Think of a situation where you have done something that is clearly wrong in general terms. Would X person turn you in or shun you away, or generally not help you through said wrongdoing? If not, that person shouldn't be close enough to know about it. For your partners this is specially meaningful even if you are doing them wrong. They might get angry, but they ought to be able to hear and talk about it openly. That's all it takes to endure life together with someone really, all else is superfluous (I'd know, it's been 20 years for me by now).
