This may not be the best place to ask but I'm not sure where else to go.
Put shortly I am really looking to try and find a significant other and have been having trouble taking the first few steps. All the mainstream dating sites either require you to pay a bunch of money in order to use it, or are just infested with coomers and thots. Similarly, I tried looking for a dating server in Discord, and as expected, all the SFW servers were just inhabited by children, and all the 18+ servers were inhabited by perverts.

Where would be a good place(s) to start looking? Are there places I should give a second chance?