>>10116982well that escalated quickly.
>>10116985My family has lost an inordinate amount of people young. So I'm no stranger to this.
Here's how we cope-
I assume you and your wife have mutual loved ones.
Step 1: Spend exactly 1 week mournful and quiet.
Step 2: Acquire alcohol and get absolutely plastered along with said loved ones and laugh about the good times.
Step 3: Go out and spend a week doing something (something positive) you've always wanted to do but haven't had the courage. Like go hike a really long mountain trail or something (but still within your skill level). Do it not for yourself but do it for her and the baby.
Step 4: Ask yourself what you think she wants to see more of. It'll still be rough. But at least you'll know.