>>3837845In these circumstances, it's commonplace to put the blame on the older person and frame them as the one who should've backed off. I understand why it's done in practice, and it's certainly valid in a certain amount of cases, but from my perspective it seems that you two were two human beings, friends, enjoying the company of each other.
In regards to the comments, aren't we all sexual beings? I've known a lot of people including myself engaging in sexual behaviours at a young age. It's part of nature. Unless he forced it hard upon you, I wouldn't be too quick to flag him as a predator.
I know it's not easy to conceive such perspective shift, and besides I'm not you, but another reality could simply be that he did genuinely find you cute, as the person he felt he was closest with.
For sure he seemed to have his issues though, but I'm glad he seemed to have straightened himself since then. Still, ultimately, he was human just like you and me, trying to find love and acceptance.
Where I'm coming from isn't a place where I'm trying to admonish you instead of him, of course. I think I am just trying to provide another perspective other than "I was prayed on", which might not help *you* in the long run. I commonly see people doing so, and it only results in them carrying on this heavy hatred which only ends up shaping their own being in an ugly way.
Forgiving - or I should say "seeing the whole" - is not easy, myself I am still processing past traumas and working on it, but I believe it to be the way.
This goes for your feelings towards him, but to yourself as well: I hope you can also, little by little, forgive yourself for any of this, and turn it into one of your strengths from here on.
Thank you again for sharing. I hope you do not regret it. Even if we're anons, I'm sure it took some courage to do so.
(For the sake of transparency, I was both of these posts
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