>>6561049>I try to cheer her upSounds odd, but this may be your problem. I'm surprised how many people still think this, but depression isn't just being really sad about something, it's a physical and mental ailment, a symptom of any number of things. If it's brought on by a specific stress or set of stresses, removal of those stresses can help it go away, but it really just needs to go away on it's own or with the aid of either a professional or someone who has a lot of experience with depression or depressed people. You can certainly provide a low-stress environment and do things to help her, but the methods people think of for just cheering someone up who's sad won't work, and often they'll just make the depressed person more stressed/pissed.
I know a lot of people will say that at a certain point you should look out for yourself and move on. To some extent that's true, you don't have a responsibility to put yourself in a shitty situation for someone else. But the lives of people who suffer from depression often become a list of former loved ones who "looked out for themselves" and bailed, unable to deal with what is admittedly a difficult thing, especially when you've never gone through it yourself. But if you really love this chick, and it sounds like you do, I'm positive you can find the strength.
Only universal tip I could give is to give her as much space as she needs, she only pushes people away because she irrationally feels trapped and can only associate that feeling with the people around her. Just remember that nothing she does is meant to hurt you (she probably isn't emotionally lucid enough to do this even if she wanted to), she's probably as distressed as you are about the whole thing as you are on the inside, and that she's no more in control of the whole thing than you are. Safe travels, friend, I'm rooting for you two.
