>>7195754>btw have you ever cut contact with a group because you felt you're not part of it but just "tolerated"?I've experienced it and have done it to others. In my cases, 1 was because I told a former friend to stop fucking behind the back of a girl with emotional problems who was interested in him. Said girl asked me if she should stay with him while we were boarding a flight and I said no. He found out and essentially "deranked" me from his top, go to friend. Was a wanna-be alpha male anyways. To this day I'm glad I stuck by what I said.
In the other case, after getting severely depressed, I had felt my 3-4 closest friends I had known since kindergarten and middle school were tolerating me and that they didn't want to be around me. My mind was not in a good spot at that time and it took, and still takes, to get out of that mindset. I too felt the burden you are talking about. Yet, I felt that "burden" came from me wanting to talk about these issues hoping that deep down they'd some magical fix-it-all answer that I knew would never happen (if that makes any sense)
As far as tolerating other people, just recently a now former friend (we'll call A) moved out of the apartment complex me and another close friend live in. Long story short, A is a fucking asshole whose only redeeming quality is that he can code above average programs. Otherwise, he is the type of asshole who kicks people's cats when they have to spend the night because the snow storm took out the power in their home and they'd freeze. That kinda asshole. He left us at the last second when the lease was 2 weeks from expiring with no job planned or anything. That fucker I tolerated for the remaining time he spent here instead of kicking his fucking teeth in like the literal burden on us he was.
So, 1 of these must apply/relate to you. Thoughts?
