>>5568916Honestly it took about 3 years of being single. Going to trade school helped. Towards the end i was having 75 hour work weeks so it is not like i had much time. Funny thing is when you get a mentality of "fuck it, i am not looking" ladies seem to get interested. I found my fuck buddy when she left a note on my car window asking for sex. That does not mean be a dick, there is no reason not to be a gentleman. If a lady asks me out i usually accept. You will know when it is time to stop because you will look up from something and see someone that will make you forget about being single.
Oh, and some advice. When starting the solo time, lots of porn and jerking off helps. When you are feeling really happy by yourself for a good long while then cut both back quite a bit (like once a week or less).
I had a messed up childhood/strong religious upbringing. It has taken me 8 years to sort myself out.
The condensed version of my path in no particular order:
*Leave church, accidentally occult, yay nasty thing, face it and win, find inner strength, still not sure if it was all in my head, not going back to church ever.
*live life off of social media. If a friendship can't last a month of no communication it isn't worth it. Now i am taking time to grow new friendships but at the time most of them were a distraction against improvement.
*go on several solo bike trips with no real plans other then go a random direction for a week. almost die a bunch but grow quite a bit
*go out to a museum or some shit solo all the time, walk around, explore.
*Take some classes for fun to learn new stuff. Always grow. Always push forward.
*find good counselor and just talk. it helps to have someone to rant to.
*Life without fear is no fun. Just use fear as a to do list. I still have stage fright so i signed up to read poetry in front of an audience in a few weeks.
