>>10655684I could right a lengthy post on how I go about it but this feels like one of those things that's at least partially subjective. What was instrumental to me was being ground down in an abusive relationship until basically I only had the most intrinsic parts of my identity left. Awful shit but because I had nothing else, it forced me to become aware of who I was at the most fundamental level, my ideological first principles, etc
My 'guilt' is just being pissy for letting ephemeral bullshit cause interference between my authentic desires and my actions. It's not a self-hating type of guilt either, that's no good, in a hate the sin not the sinner kinda deal
